[ Other - Family & Relationships ] Open Question : my relation vessel worth saving and how if so? (long read)? 0comments
guest IP:97.74.238.* published in 2010-01-14 13:54:00
Hello I'm 23 year old and live in Aus to understand my problem i trust i have to tell you the entire story I met this girl online on Latin American Cupid last February from Peru she lives in peru ...
Hello I'm 23 year old and live in Aus to understand my problem i trust i have to tell you the entire story I met this girl online on Latin American Cupid last February from Peru she lives in peru and her and the mother was guess to come through in 3 months (i purchase the tickets) except suddenly her father behind 3 months told me and her not to speak to each other anymore he said "that i was a kidnapper" we argued but we decided to continue this relationship in secret then i find out she is suppose to be marrying someone since her father's side is indian and her mother italian and that they have arranged marriages and that is part of the reason why this happened ok well she said she wasn't going to go with him and leave the family if she had to because she loved me.in the 4 months region i find out that the photos she sent me of her are not her at all i was quite upset and told her to send me her real photos which I thought she did because i was upset.anyways we were suppose to meet in another 3 months and my plans are to talk to her father there with her after the 3rd day i meet her anyways so it's 6 months but her mother died in a car crash so she said not to come and give it a few more months and i can definitely regard and understand thathere I find out that a photo she sent me was not her after i made her promise to tell me if it was heragain another figth but it seems that this time i got the real photos i don't even concern about how she looks i didn't find out they where the real photos till December anyway. but i would love to have a picture of her and not someone else.so 2 months later her father finds out about us through her msn profile and he emails me and says not to come till this november and if my GF and the person she is suppose to marry wants to rest it off that i can then see her they talked about it and decided to break it off he told me i could go in February because she has to complete her studies which finnish in December im thinking well ok so I'll wait till Febuary I mean ok there is nothing wrong with the father wanting her to finnish her studies now she finished and now he wants her to do a post graduate and want me to wait till SeptemberAnd im fighting with my parent's because they think she is a lyre and that she's not real they say it better to find someone who is real or who won't make you wait that anyone would have time even a week i spoke to her on the microphone many times and it often the same personI sent an email yesterday saying that September would be the last time and "it is no longer if i love you i will wait" like the father said in an email he sent me "its now if you love me you will not make me wait past September and that if your not prepared to leave your family en September she should tell me now because i understand there going to come with something else like an excuse."also a note on my side something i didn't say to her till yesterday I have a disease i have copd chronic cough meaning i cough in the morning and night a little like a smoker cough quick and short not the dying smoker cough got it from a bad flu.so i have two questions1. what should i do am i doing the right thing i do like this girl and have fun with her that is obvious.2. if i determine to go through with this and wait till september is there anything that i could do to avoid the conversation of finding someone new with my parents i live with them as they are italian and like italian mothers my mother is always wanting me to find a girl or in this case terminate the relationship i am very close to my parent especially my mother and don't want to damage it so if i can avoid hurting her i will because she is only looking out for me saying i cannot spend the rest of my life in the front of a computer.should i somehow create a fake gf for a few months or something easier maybe... actually there isn't anything easy about this haha. Say what I think
